Thursday, April 24, 2008

Love & Forgiveness

How can these two words, love and forgiveness change your whole perspective on life? First, you must put your trust in something bigger than yourself. You may call it God, Spirit, Budda, whatever your faith is, trust that it has a bigger plan (could it be a lesson in forgiveness?) than your everyday troubles. What is the most important lesson you can learn while here on earth? Love and Forgiveness. But how do you get to the Love part if you have hatred in your heart? Forgive. It sounds so simple and yet it can be the most difficult thing that you can do in this lifetime.

You were wronged or someone betrayed you, how can you let that go? Forgive. Forgive and it will set your heart free. Here are some steps that can get you there. Feel your anger, feel your sadness, feel whatever it is you need to get all those emotions out, write it down and then throw it away. Give yourself a certain timeframe in which you will no longer continue to go on with those emotions. Now comes the hard part, trying to convince yourself that the other person deserves to be forgiven. Every time this hurt comes into your heart, say to yourself "I forgive "name" for what they have done". Every time you start to go over the scenario, and start to get angry or sad, instead replace it with "I forgive "name" for what they have done". You might not believe what you are saying at first. But sending that message out into the universe will eventually help break the chain of black energy that links you together with an invisible line of hate.

Hopefully it will hit you one day. You can let it go, the hate, the anger, the betrayal, how you were wronged and in a peaceful loving moment truly feel that forgiveness. The best possible way to break the chain of hate that connects you by an invisible link, is to stand and face this person and truly believing and feeling in your heart what you are about to say to them. "No matter what you have done to me, I forgive you" It is truly disarming, and can break that link that binds you. That's it! It may be a long and hard task to get to that one simple line.

What does it feel like? Once you have set each other free, your heart feels lighter, you have an overwhelming feeling of peace. You suddenly understand it all, the reason you are here, the lessons that you need to learn while on this earth plane. You will never be the same, because in every situation you can begin to feel compassion, humility and gratitude toward your fellow travelers here on earth.
So You can LOVE again. You are a radiant being moving forward in life.

5 comments:

Syra said...

“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.”
~Lewis B. Smedes

My selection of quotes on forgiveness

khany said...

"You might not believe what you are saying at first. But sending that message out into the universe will eventually help break the chain ..."

sounds like "fake it until you make it" :)

Saira Andleeb said...

Am i seeing Khany everywhere or is he actually everywhere :P :)

"At times like these its very natural to get extremley caught up in our hurt and curse the other person, feeling pity for ownselves. But we tend to ignore the fact that such times give us a chance to contemplate! We should first try questioning ourselves if we ever were a cause of the same hurt/wrong to somebody;
You never know when your own bad might be coming back to you. The other person whos breaking our trust might actually be completely unaware of it and the probability of us having done the same thing, unknowingly is very high too!

So what should be done ?

I think:
firstly, make a list of people whom you think you might have hurt, are angry to you, or arent speaking to you, and apologise to them. In that process, finding out how some people might still be angry at you can come as a shocker too ! :)

2ndly,prayer! pray that god helps you identify your own wrongdoings that might have caused miseries to others, and that god helps you reach/find them and apologise to all of them.
Not just apologise but mend things and make it up to them. And pray that God makes your apologies acceptable to the ones you might have hurt !

And for the person who hurt you, pray that they realise their fault, that they get hadayat and you be able to forgive them. Forgiveness if we can comprehend, is better and needed more for our own peace than the one whom we feel should be asking for it !
Also i think when people hurt you, always make sure that they get to know how they've hurt you ! why ? so that they become aware of the magnitude of their wrong and later in life when you hurt someone you get to know of your wrong too !

:)
"
~my comment from monas blog.

Syra said...

JazakAllah khair saira :). Indeed one should contemplate on the points you mentioned.

Last year I bumped into an old school friend, we ended up talking abt school days and the fun times. I recalled that some of my friends participated in certain mean things against her.. so I apologized to her on behalf of my friends. She was totally surprised that I brought it up and became all subdued for a while and then exclaimed "SAIRA, ARE YOU DYING?"

:D:D:D:D

It was really funny. God bless her.

but you know what, some day all of will die, so why not apologize in time and make it up for any teeny meeny direct or indirect, intentional or unintentional hurt we may have caused.


REMINDER:

There are three parts to apology
1)I m sorry
2)It was my fault
3)HOW DO I MAKE IT RIGHT

(I was thrilled to hear prof randy seconding this)

While seeking apology the focus should be on the "how do i make it right"

Most people skip the third part and that's where sincerity of apology shows. If the guilty party doesn't think of making it right doesn't it seem selfish and meaningless?

Just because you are feeling heavy you address a sorry note with no intention of fixing things. Only God knows what is in another's heart but to me with the third part missing it doesn't seem that the wrong doer is truly repentant.

Ofcourse sometimes Allah doesn't give you a chance of being able to make it right--and that's a different scenario.

Sometimes bad things do happen to good people, and it's not always your own bad doing coming back and hitting you. The Holy Prophet (p.b.u.h) was perfect in character and ikhlaq, despite that ignorant people made efforts to harm him...for eg the garbage lady incident and the black magic one.

I believe that misfortunes are glad tidings for the future and there is good to seek from every happening. Allahu alam

And it feels so liberating to forgive someone in the name of PEACE and earning God's pleasure!

Z Sattar said...

It is complete coincidence that I have read this blog and I am very pleased to say that I have read it on very right time because I am going from the same phase which u have describe in this post.....

Thanks